| Quality Communication - Active Listening as a Requirement for Quality
Judging |
Tim Weissman
As an experienced judge, as well as a family therapist in my day-to-day
life, I thought it would be beneficial to share my thoughts on effective
communication in judging. As you all know, the DCI has many requirements
for judge certification, yet, in my opinion, the skill which stands out
above and beyond the rest as a requirement for a quality judge is
communication - the ability to effectively interact with people.
Of course a judge needs to know the rules of the game, and higher judges
need strong knowledge of policy, but all this book knowledge will go to
waste if a judge does not have skill in dealing with people. How a judge
makes a ruling has a lasting impression on the player(s). A simple, cut
and dry, ruling which is implemented in a poor fashion will not go over as
well as some of the most difficult rulings made with effective
communication skills and techniques. The impression left with the players
goes a long way toward their assessment of the quality and professionalism
of the judge AND of the event itself - something with which us tournament
organizers are very concerned.
So, if you want to increase your quality as a judge (and as a person for
that matter), and be more marketable to tournament organizers, I encourage
you to take a look at communication. The communication process seems very
obvious, yet many people don't engage in it very well. It goes like this:
one person speaks (or engages in some non-verbal message) while the second
person listens, then the second person speaks while the first person
listens. Pretty basic, yet so many people don't really understand the art
that takes place here. Eye contact, body language and other non-verbals
are crucial when engaging in communication. Remember, communication is a
process, a dance, between two or more people in which there is active
involvement in both the speaking and the listening. Most people have no
problem giving their input and taking their turn to speak. The area where
there seems to be the largest challenge is in the listening. This is also
an area where I see many judges needing improvement. Remember, judging
should not be about power and influence. It should be about an enjoyment
of the game and the desire to see a fair playing field on which players
may compete.
When a judge does not engage in quality listening, he/she establishes a
rigid power differential and creates an atmosphere of totalitarianism. In
essence the message to the player is "I know the answer and I don't need
you to give me any information." This doesn't inspire confidence or trust
with the players, which in turn reflects poorly on the tournament
organizer and their event. So, practice what is called active listening.
It is called active because you don't simply sit there and look at the
person; you are actively involved. It is a style of listening in which
the receiver actively participates in the transfer of the message. When
dealing with a player who is speaking, look them in the eye, nod your
head, give affirmative verbal cues like "yes" and "uh-huh," ask
appropriate clarification questions, keep an interested and open posture,
and, finally, let them come to a reasonable finishing point before
breaking in for your turn. Nothing goes farther toward building
relationships, and therefore trust, than active listening. When the other
person feels heard, even the harshest rulings can be implemented smoothly.
In my own experience, it is not uncommon for me to be ejecting a person
from the tournament, and for them to be smiling while I fill out the
paperwork (well, maybe not smiling, but you get the idea). Let me give you
an idea of how to implement quality communication in judging. In fact, I
suggest this approach to all new judges. When a ruling is called for and
you approach the table, first ask the person calling for a judge what they
need. Let them explain the situation to you, asking clarification
questions and engaging in active listening. If the opponent tries to
interrupt, stop them and explain in a soft but direct manner that your
style of judging is to let one person explain the situation fully without
interruption, then to give the opponent the same opportunity.
Once you get explanations from both players, engaging in active listening
with both, you can make a ruling. After making the ruling, ask them each
if they are unclear on why. Then respond where appropriate. If a player
becomes emotional at any point, a good way redirect them is to tell them
you understand how important this match is, and remind them that this
isn't a personal ruling, and that you would appreciate it if it would stay
professional. Of course, there are some people out there that don't
respond well, no matter what you do, so you might have to become more
directive and inform them of penalties for being belligerent to judges.
There are other strategies to moderate emotional responses from players,
as well as build the trust of players in general. I personally like to
carry my rule books and judge guidelines when making rulings. I know
there is a school of thought that says players trust it more when you
"know" the answer. However, I feel it is just the opposite. Plus, I
think it is all in the presentation. I present my act of carrying ruling
books with me as a non-biased approach to judging in which players have
the chance to see the ruling themselves if desired. Additionally, if they
see me looking it up, they feel more trusting of the rule - not like I am
just pulling something out of thin air.
Another strategy is to work in a team approach. I do this at all my
events, especially when a serious ruling needs to be made. Players trust
a team of judges much more than they trust a single one. The reason I
bring these strategies up is because the building of trust is crucial in
quality communication. If the receiver does not trust what the sender is
sending, an open exchange of information is impossible. Thus, building
trust is of utmost importance. This can be accomplished with these types
of strategies, as well as with active listening. When the player feels
heard, and they trust that the judge is being impartial, the actual ruling
feels much more acceptable, and the player is much more likely to believe
the judge, as well as the event, is professional.
In conclusion, let's recap what active listening is and how it influences
communication and judging. Active listening is a style of listening in
which the receiver of the message participates fully in the transfer.
They ask clarification questions, nod their head in affirmation, look the
speaker in the eye and pay attention to the message until such time as the
message is finished. When a judge uses this technique of listening, it
helps engender trust in the player and facilitates a smooth rule-making
process. It also helps moderate emotionality in players, as well as build
up confidence in the judge as a competent professional. So, engage in
active listening and remember that communication is more effective when
trust and rapport are established. Next time you here "JUDGE!" called
out, use it as an opportunity to practice quality communication and
witness the results first-hand. I'm sure you will be pleased with the
response from players, as well as with how smooth rulings can go. Also,
feel free to email me with any questions or ideas of your own -
tweissm@pdq.net
Tim Weissman, M.A.
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